I remember sitting in my office one evening as a young woman told me about her recent breakup. She said, “He is the one who…
How to Identify Passive-Aggressive Behavior
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Most people who come to me for counseling—whether it’s for anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, substance abuse, or stress management—are on…
If You Wrote a Letter to Yourself: Healing Shame
You’ve probably heard the familiar saying, “We are our own worst critic.” This means we hold ourselves to a higher standard than perhaps anyone else…
I Feel Crazy, But Am I? Understanding Gaslighting
We hear all the time that physical aggression is abusive; what we don’t often hear or recognize is that emotional abuse can be equally damaging.…
Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions
By this point in the year you may be making great strides toward your New Year’s resolutions, feeling frustrated that you haven’t made as much…
Why “Should” Is Ruining Your Life
I grew up reading Harry Potter, and I fell in love with the story about rag-tag characters who defy all odds and come out on…
Politics, Anxiety, and Emotional Distress
Elizabeth sat in front of me in her therapy session crying. If anyone had a reason to be stressed out, it was her. The parent…
Five Ways to Support Your Teen in School
As hard as it is to believe, the back to school signs are out and the first class bell is ready to ring. The busy…
The Little Pink Pill for Women: Worth Taking, or Not?
Last summer, the US Food and Drug Administration approved a non-hormonal therapy named Addyi (aka flibanserin, the “little pink pill,” or the “female Viagra”) for…
Pursuer-Distancer Dynamics in Relationships
Have you noticed in your relationship that you have pursuer-distancer dynamics, that is, one person typically pursues connection, and the other distances, or move away…
Healthy People Have Hobbies and Interests
That’s right! Healthy people do have hobbies. It’s really true that if you aren’t spending time investing in yourself, doing things that bring you relaxation…
How Sex Therapy Can Help for Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common condition in which a man is unable to achieve and maintain an erection sufficient for sexual activity. Needless to…
