At Life Counseling Institute, we use the form of couples counseling and marriage therapy that has shown to be most effective in improving relationships, emotion-focused therapy (EFT). EFT focuses on helping the couple understand the cyclical patterns they get into in an attempt to get their primary emotional needs met and learn more effective ways to do so. Learn more about emotion focused therapy here.
What is the right time to begin couples therapy?
Usually, now. Sooner is better than later. Ask any couples therapist, and they will tell you that couples tend to wait way too long to seek couples counseling. Couples that come in sooner tend to have an easier time restoring their relationship to where they’d like it to be.
It’s helpful to view marriage counseling not as a last resort but as a proactive, preventative step you can take to short circuit any budding issues that you may be noticing, before patterns become ingrained and more difficult to change. It’s your marriage, it’s your family, and why wouldn’t you want to make that your first priority?
What if my spouse or partner won’t come?
If you are concerned about your relationship but your spouse or partner refuses to come to counseling, we strongly encourage you to come on your own. The fact of the matter is that when one person initiates change, that can greatly influence the dynamics in the relationship itself. Learn more about “couples counseling for one” here.
Can you really help us if the problem is just distance or lack of connection? You know, the roommate thing?
Yes, we can help restore connection and intimacy in couples who feel disconnection or distance is the main issue. Learn more here.
Can you help us reduce conflict? All we do is fight.
Yes, we can help high conflict couples learn new ways to communicate that will decrease the amount of arguing and restore effective communication. Learn more here.
What if someone has had an affair?
We can help you if one or both partners has had an affair. It’s more common than you may think. You can learn to understand the factors that led to the affair, reduce blame, and restore trust. Learn more here.
Perhaps you’re unsure if couples counseling can really do all of these things. We invite you to come in for a session to give it a try and learn more about it. We believe that in a safe space and with the assistance of a caring and competent professional, your relationship can be stronger than you ever imagined it could be.