Family Therapy

Surely family life is supposed to be better than this…

You had a picture in your head of what your family life would look like. There would be family dinners, time spent enjoying each other’s company, having fun together, open communication. You’d be a close-knit, connected family who supported one another.

Then there’s reality. There’s yelling, arguing, fighting and conflict. The phrase, “Well that escalated quickly!” never had so much meaning.

You’re not sure why, but your school age child is acting out left and right, one teen is snarly and sarcastic and the other, sullen and sulky, walks in and heads straight upstairs to her room. Your spouse is disengaged, checked out from it all, leaving you alone to deal with all that is happening.

You’re right, it’s not supposed to be this way. Having said that, you’re not alone. Many families experience problems of disconnection, conflict, and disharmony that they can’t seem to resolve. The harder they try, the worse it gets.

Families are under enormous stress these days.

It’s a stressful world, and that impacts every family member differently. And if your family has experienced any number of these stressors, it’s likely you could use some help:

  • A family member with a mental health crisis, such as depression, eating disorder, or substance abuse problem
  • Divorce, remarriage, blended family situation
  • Death or illness in the family
  • A move to a new home or location
  • A child or adolescent having difficulty coping with life
  • Resentment, poor communication, misunderstandings
family therapy

Family therapy can be used even when it seems the problem lies predominantly with one individual in the family. This is because in family therapy, individual problems are viewed in the context of the larger family system. Your child’s problems don’t exist in a vacuum, they likely are coming from the dynamics of the family. For example, children sometimes act out behaviorally in an attempt to divert attention away from a conflict between mom and dad. While individual therapy takes a narrow focus, family counseling has a wider lens and views all issues, including those of individuals in the family, as relational, that is, stemming from and impacting the wider family system. Even when it seems only one person is struggling, the focus is on everyone.

Family therapy is a rich, dynamic form of therapy that helps not only each individual but the entire family at the same time. With the help of a skilled counselor who can create a safe environment, your family can begin to communicate about and resolve issues you’ve been struggling with for years.

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Family counseling can help:

  • Open up channels of communication
  • Facilitate collaboration and problem solving
  • Define and work toward common goals, together
  • Improve boundaries
  • Clarify roles and expectation
  • Restore connection and fun
  • Enable your family to enjoy each other’s company again and learn to support one another

While it can be scary to think about exploring issues together as a family in counseling, we know that even one session will give you hope that you’re problems really aren’t that unique… that they can be worked through with the assistance and guidance of a trained professional.