“There’s nothing terribly wrong in my relationship,” you think. It’s just that you feel more like roommates than romantic partners. You’re so tied down with the house, the kids, the job, and the finances, that maybe you and your spouse somehow forgot…about the relationship.
You used to be so in love…and now you barely notice your partner.
Your partner used to be so attentive…and now you feel taken for granted
You used to be so excited…and now you are bored and lonely.
You used to have fun together…and now you’d rather do your own thing.
You’re growing apart…and yet you still care.
You’re not alone. Many couples find that as the stress of adulthood and family life builds, it gets harder and harder to stay connected. Things can seem dull, stale, and repetitive, like there’s just no energy to the relationship. You don’t feel seen or understood…you’re ships in the night. You might even be thinking of others, wondering if you chose the wrong person or if you might find happiness with someone else. Maybe you’ve outgrown each other. You understandably want to feel deeply connected again.