Disconnected Couples

“There’s nothing terribly wrong in my relationship,” you think. It’s just that you feel more like roommates than romantic partners. You’re so tied down with the house, the kids, the job, and the finances, that maybe you and your spouse somehow forgot…about the relationship.

You used to be so in love…and now you barely notice your partner.
Your partner used to be so attentive…and now you feel taken for granted
You used to be so excited…and now you are bored and lonely.
You used to have fun together…and now you’d rather do your own thing.

You’re growing apart…and yet you still care.

You’re not alone. Many couples find that as the stress of adulthood and family life builds, it gets harder and harder to stay connected. Things can seem dull, stale, and repetitive, like there’s just no energy to the relationship. You don’t feel seen or understood…you’re ships in the night. You might even be thinking of others, wondering if you chose the wrong person or if you might find happiness with someone else. Maybe you’ve outgrown each other. You understandably want to feel deeply connected again.

But you’ve built this life together.

And you’d rather not start over. You had always believed in the idea of spending the rest of your life with your partner, and you’re not sure you want to let go of that idea of growing old together.

We believe you and think you’re on the right track. There are indeed things you can do to rejuvenate your relationship, so you don’t have to start over.

Here is what couples counseling and marriage therapy can do for disconnected couples :

• Help you communicate again, more deeply then before, so that you feel noticed, seen, and heard
• Rediscover your partner’s unique qualities that first attracted you to them
• Restore intimacy, your physical relationship
• Deepen your sense of connection
• Experience enjoyment and fun together again

We use a form of marriage counseling and couples therapy that has been shown to be most effective in improving relationships, emotion-focused therapy (EFT). EFT helps couples understand their patterns of connecting with one another emotionally, helping partners feel heard and understood again, allowing the spark to reignite.

You may be wondering what marriage counseling or couples therapy will be like. You won’t know until you try. We invite you to come in and learn how a skilled therapist can guide you and your partner in a welcoming and safe space, helping you restore the connection you once had.