You’re so tired of the fighting.
The conflict, the criticism, the way you never know when things are going to escalate. It’s wearing you down. And you never thought—ever—that it would be like this, because things were so great up front. And then…they weren’t great anymore. There’s blame, frustration, confusion, shame, and a lot of hurt. You thought your relationship would add joy and fun to your life, not make it painful, sad, and lonely.
Wondering what happened?
Of course you are. You are not alone, and these sorts of problems are way more common than you may think.
There really should be a course in high school where they explain the most important things about life to you…like understanding the patterns that are common in romantic relationships that couples tend to fall into. If someone had explained these things to you, it would have changed so much. You might have known how to respond, in ways that would help your relationship, in ways that would help your partner hear you and respond to you differently. And you probably wish your spouse or partner had also signed up for a class like this!