By Lexy Ulrich, LCPC When baby sea turtles are born, they begin their lives by struggling to get to shore by themselves. It’s a difficult time, and it’s possible that not all of them will make it. While it might seem easier for them to have been born closer to shore, this conflict at the beginning of their lives is… Continue Reading »
Pathological Altruism: When Giving Causes More Harm than Good
Giving and putting others first is heralded as a loving act, a way to show how much you care for another person, a way to relieve someone’s sadness, distress, or fear. However, did you know that there are times when giving can do more harm than good? In the clinical world this phenomenon is called “pathological altruism.” If you google… Continue Reading »
How to Ruin Your Relationship in Just 10 Easy Steps!
Use the words always and never and other discounting language to remind your partner they can never do anything right and don’t ever contribute. Similarly, point out only what your partner does wrong. This way they won’t get full of themselves or live under the illusion that they are succeeding at anything. Use the silent treatment. When you are mad… Continue Reading »
I Feel Crazy, But Am I? Understanding Gaslighting
We hear all the time that physical aggression is abusive; what we don’t often hear or recognize is that emotional abuse can be equally damaging. One such type of emotional abuse is called gaslighting. Gaslighting is a tactic of emotional manipulation designed to create extreme doubt in someone’s memory, sense of competence, and ultimately, one’s sanity. The aggressor accomplishes this… Continue Reading »
Honey, We Broke the Kids: Guiding Children through Divorce
When couples exchange the words “’til death do us part,” that promise doesn’t always stand the test of time. Divorce can happen for any number of reasons, including financial strain, conflict, disconnection, and infidelity. Even though divorce is common (perhaps as high as 50% of marriages), we know it isn’t easy for couples, especially when children are in the mix…. Continue Reading »
If Your Relationship Feels Stuck, Could Not Listening the Problem?
By Lexy Ulrich, LCPC If you find that your relationship is lacking in closeness, you may just want to ask yourself if you’re a good listener. Because I can tell you that the minute you stop listening, your relationship stops growing. I see it in the married couples who come into my office all of the time. They tell me… Continue Reading »