Self-Care: Not about Self-Indulgence, but Self-Preservation
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” -Audrey Lorde Self-care is a set of behaviors and habits that an individual engages in to…
Why Netflix Does Not Qualify as Self-Care
I love Netflix. I mean, I LOVE it. Where else can you watch whole seasons of incredible, gripping shows all in one sitting? (It’s not…
Shame Issues? Learn to Be a Better Observer of Others
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Almost all of us struggle at times with shame, or a sense of inadequacy. Even when we’re dissatisfied with others,…
Is Codependency Keeping You from Who You Need to Be?
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Relationships are wonderful, joyous things that give our lives purpose and meaning. When they are going well, that is. When…
Five Ways to Support Your Teen in School
As hard as it is to believe, the back to school signs are out and the first class bell is ready to ring. The busy…
The Unique Pain of Ambiguous Loss
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC When someone dies, it is clear we have suffered a loss and are grieving. Our feelings of sadness are apparent…
The Most Essential To-Do before Saying “I Do”
A lot of details go into wedding planning. As the day draws near, weekends are spent checking off the to-do list of things that will…
Horrific Thoughts: A Common Form of OCD
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Most people have heard of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It’s become trendy to say, “I’m so OCD,” which is insulting to…
The Little Pink Pill for Women: Worth Taking, or Not?
Last summer, the US Food and Drug Administration approved a non-hormonal therapy named Addyi (aka flibanserin, the “little pink pill,” or the “female Viagra”) for…
Running East: The Four Tasks of Grief and Loss
“The quickest way for anyone to reach the sun and the light of day is not to run west, chasing after the setting sun, but…
Are You Really Listening?
It may be surprising to learn that listening doesn’t come naturally and is a lot tougher than we realize. Hearing the words being spoken—versus actively…
Pursuer-Distancer Dynamics in Relationships
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Have you noticed in your relationship that you have pursuer-distancer dynamics, that is, one person typically pursues connection, and the…
