It may be surprising to learn that listening doesn’t come naturally and is a lot tougher than we realize. Hearing the words being spoken—versus actively…
Pursuer-Distancer Dynamics in Relationships
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Have you noticed in your relationship that you have pursuer-distancer dynamics, that is, one person typically pursues connection, and the…
Overcoming Resentment
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC “Resentments are like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” You’ve probably heard the adage before, but since…
Childhood Emotional Neglect: When Struggles Come from What Didn’t Happen
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Anxiety, depression and addiction are the most common mental health issues. But many struggle much of their lives feeling inadequate,…
Healthy People Have Hobbies and Interests
That’s right! Healthy people do have hobbies. It’s really true that if you aren’t spending time investing in yourself, doing things that bring you relaxation…
The Importance of Boundaries in Our Lives
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Whether you’ve been in therapy or not, you’ve likely heard people talk about boundaries, which are critically important to our…
How to Increase Your Fondness for Your Partner
Maybe you’ve noticed how you and your spouse don’t have fun or interact in the same way you did when you were dating or first…
How Sex Therapy Can Help for Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common condition in which a man is unable to achieve and maintain an erection sufficient for sexual activity. Needless to…
The Dangers of Addictive Porn Use in Men
As a sex-positive therapist, I believe that pornography does not have to be pathological or problematic. In fact, in the 1990s, feminists themselves helped create…
Can a Relationship Make It after an Affair?
If you have ever been cheated on, you know all too well the pain it brings. Or perhaps you’ve had an affair and are wondering…
The Power of Vulnerability
Society can do a poor job of showing the benefits of vulnerability. It’s heralded as a weakness, or labeled as “dramatic” or “emotional.” Apparently it’s…
Low Female Sexual Desire: It’s Not Just You
If you are a woman in a relationship in which sexual desire is an issue, it’s easy to get the message from our culture that…
