Every Day is Opposite Day when It Comes to Social Anxiety
Social anxiety can be debilitating. It can keep you from you living the life you desire and deserve for yourself. It can stop you from…
My Child Has Anxiety: How Can I Help?
By Zuly Ramirez, LPC A child or teen who experiences their world with overwhelming, worrisome thoughts can have difficulty with a myriad of tasks: going…
The Power of Saying “No”
A statement I often hear from my clients is, “I don’t feel like I’m appreciated.” Feeling appreciated is one of the most rewarding, warm feelings…
The Opportunity of Discomfort
Thinking we can find lasting pleasure and avoid pain is what keeps us miserable, caught in a hopeless cycle of suffering–Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall…
Conflict Avoidance: Sink or Swim
When baby sea turtles are born, they begin their lives by struggling to get to shore by themselves. It’s a difficult time, and it’s possible…
Pathological Altruism: When Giving Causes More Harm than Good
Giving and putting others first is heralded as a loving act, a way to show how much you care for another person, a way to…
Getting Unstuck
Have you ever had the thought, “I feel stuck”? If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky. This is a very familiar and common feeling for a…
Making It Through Your First Breakup
I remember sitting in my office one evening as a young woman told me about her recent breakup. She said, “He is the one who…
How to Identify Passive-Aggressive Behavior
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Most people who come to me for counseling—whether it’s for anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, substance abuse, or stress management—are on…
How to Ruin Your Relationship in Just 10 Easy Steps!
Use the words always and never and other discounting language to remind your partner they can never do anything right and don’t ever contribute. Similarly,…
If You Wrote a Letter to Yourself: Healing Shame
You’ve probably heard the familiar saying, “We are our own worst critic.” This means we hold ourselves to a higher standard than perhaps anyone else…
I Feel Crazy, But Am I? Understanding Gaslighting
We hear all the time that physical aggression is abusive; what we don’t often hear or recognize is that emotional abuse can be equally damaging.…
