If Your Relationship Feels Stuck, Could Not Listening the Problem?
If you find that your relationship is lacking in closeness, you may just want to ask yourself if you’re a good listener. Because I can…
Assertiveness: Why Does It Matter, When Others Won’t Change?
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Counselors spend a fair amount of their time teaching assertiveness skills, because people frequently come in with low self-esteem, feeling…
Good Guilt: When Feeling Guilty Means You’re on the Right Track
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Change is hard. When people come in for counseling, they want change, and often this requires that they themselves change…
Coping with Family Dysfunction at the Holidays
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC On the wall of my office where I do counseling I have a sketch that says, “Rules for a Successful…
Postpartum Anxiety: More Common than Postpartum Depression
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC When Michelle first sought help after the birth of her first baby, she couldn’t figure out what the problem was.…
Turning Life’s Detours into Opportunities
Driving down interstate 90, thinking about getting to my destination at a decent hour, my excitement for the night’s plans suddenly came to a stop.…
Why “Should” Is Ruining Your Life
I grew up reading Harry Potter, and I fell in love with the story about rag-tag characters who defy all odds and come out on…
Politics, Anxiety, and Emotional Distress
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Elizabeth sat in front of me in her therapy session crying. If anyone had a reason to be stressed out,…
When You Lose It with Your Kids, the Problem Is Usually Boundaries, Not Anger
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC In the world of perfection parenting that we’re immersed in, many moms are worried they don’t measure up, a major…
Self-Care: Not about Self-Indulgence, but Self-Preservation
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” -Audrey Lorde Self-care is a set of behaviors and habits that an individual engages in to…
Why Netflix Does Not Qualify as Self-Care
I love Netflix. I mean, I LOVE it. Where else can you watch whole seasons of incredible, gripping shows all in one sitting? (It’s not…
Shame Issues? Learn to Be a Better Observer of Others
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Almost all of us struggle at times with shame, or a sense of inadequacy. Even when we’re dissatisfied with others,…
