Pathological Altruism: When Giving Causes More Harm than Good
Giving and putting others first is heralded as a loving act, a way to show how much you care for another person, a way to…
Getting Unstuck
Have you ever had the thought, “I feel stuck”? If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky. This is a very familiar and common feeling for a…
Making It Through Your First Breakup
I remember sitting in my office one evening as a young woman told me about her recent breakup. She said, “He is the one who…
How to Identify Passive-Aggressive Behavior
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Most people who come to me for counseling—whether it’s for anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, substance abuse, or stress management—are on…
How to Ruin Your Relationship in Just 10 Easy Steps!
Use the words always and never and other discounting language to remind your partner they can never do anything right and don’t ever contribute. Similarly,…
If You Wrote a Letter to Yourself: Healing Shame
You’ve probably heard the familiar saying, “We are our own worst critic.” This means we hold ourselves to a higher standard than perhaps anyone else…
Validation: the Key to Successful Relationships
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” —David Augsburger If…
Anxiety: Your Welcomed Guest
Stop fighting anxiety and start welcoming it. Learn why acceptance-based therapy might be the counterintuitive approach you need.
Coping with the Reality of Chronic Pain
Do you feel that your chronic pain rules your life? Are you having trouble adjusting to the limitations of your pain? You are not alone.…
The Pause: Hope for Unrelenting Busyness
By Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC When Sue came to see me, she was under great stress. There were too many tasks to accomplish, places to…
The Best Gift for Your Teen or Adult Child: Admit Your Biggest Mistakes
by Marilee Feldman, LCPC, CADC Parents love to joke about their worst moments in parenting. For example, we laugh about that time that we forgot…
Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions
By this point in the year you may be making great strides toward your New Year’s resolutions, feeling frustrated that you haven’t made as much…
